Asking someone to be in your wedding party is a huge honor. It's also a huge commitment. They're investing a ton of their time and money (and let's ALL remember, time IS money) to make sure your special day is, well, special. The best brides are cognizant of this and don't go all Bridezilla on their bridesmaids.
They try to make the process as fun and painless and affordable as possible. And, of course, they don't ever, EVER look you in the eye and tell you that you'll "totally be able to wear your bridesmaid dress again." Anyone who has ever said that is a fucking LIAR.
So, you're getting married and you want to be the bride described above. The tolerable, magnanimous bride that people will actually want to be friends with once the wedding is over. Figure out who you want in your wedding party and send them one of these Will You Be My Bridesmaid? Cards ($4, Detroit Card Co.) that either plies the potential bridesmaids with the promise of alcohol or appeals to their charitable side, telling them they can donate their dress to refugees. Either way, these cards are going to seal the deal. Your wedding party awaits!